Storytime | Stranger Asks Me To Marry Her Son?!

18.5.16


Hello everyone! I don't know if you watch KathleenLights on YouTube, but I watch her beauty videos occasionally and her 'Kat Chats' videos are my favorite. I've also discovered JessiSmiles a few days ago and already watched all of her storytime videos. I just find these videos so entertaining especially because I'm a very curious person. I thought that I would do something similar and upload storytime blog posts every now and then! 

So this took place during May last year on just one day while I was still living in Dubai (I was 15). My mom used to go to Gold's Gym while I went to Fitness First on my own for two months and would take my sisters with me often too. On this particular day neither of my sisters were with me. I arrived about 20 minutes early to warm up for Zumba class and I was on the cycling bike listening to my own music.

Now, I don't know if this was the case for many people in Dubai but anywhere my family went someone would ask us where we're from. They wouldn't even stop there, they'd ask more questions and pry. So as I was cycling the woman beside me speaks to me out of nowhere (when I clearly have headphones on), and asks me where I'm from. Obviously, she didn't just stop there. She then asked me what my name was and when I told her, she talked about how it's an Arabic name and if I'm a muslim or not. Like I said, no boundaries. I wasn't annoyed while she was asking me these questions though. I thought she was a nice woman who genuinely had nothing to do while cycling. She proceeded to ask whether I go to school, if I have any older sisters and what their ages were, and how old I am.

After all the prying, she said that her English isn't the best and that her daughter who is at the belly dance class will come out soon and talk to me BECAUSE SHE WANTS ME TO MARRY HER 24 YEAR OLD SON. At this moment, I realized her motive behind all these questions and I just thought: "w h a t  have I gotten myself into here". 

I obviously got very uncomfortable and slowly got off the cycling machine and went to the leg press hoping that she won't come to me again. Simultaneously, I texted my sister about this while panicking and telling her to come pick me up. Only 5 minutes passed and I see the woman standing in front of me with her daughter. I told her sister how uncomfortable this is, I'm not marrying anyone and I'm just 15. Her mother didn't get the message though, because she asked "what about one of your older sisters?"...........

I started feeling even more uneasy and trying to explain to them that no one from my family is going to get married to her son! We're girls who are going to school and university and building a future for ourselves. I do not understand how a woman can just go around the gym asking a minor if she wants to marry her 24 year old son???¿¿¿ After getting the message through their heads, neither of them spoke to me anymore (thank god). I could have easily gone to a staff member and tell them about this but I didn't want to cause a problem and just wanted to go home to be honest. No, I didn't end up going to Zumba at the end. I get that I was living in the Middle East and that some families are still traditional wanting a young wife for their sons when they think it's time for them to get married, but what she did was completely wrong.

Also, what do you guys think about age differences? I feel like it's such a controversial topic and everyone has different thoughts on it. I know some people that have a big age difference like 9 years, some people have even more. There are some girls who want their future husbands to be at least 5 years older.

Personally, the thought of an 18 year old marrying someone who's 26 makes me cringe. Like, when you born into this world your 'husband' was already 8 years old. I don't know if that's a weird way of thinking about it, but that's the way I think. It's even worse if there's an age difference of 13 for example, like he was already a teenager when you were just a newborn... I honestly wouldn't mind if my partner was the same age as me or a year older. The maximum age I'd be okay with is 5 years older. I feel like we'd have the same mindset and I would just be more comfortable with that age difference. I'm assuming the woman expected me to graduate school, marry her son and probably stay at home. I don't want to jump into conclusions though. She could have been expecting me to go to university and get a job but we can clearly see that she still has many traditional views. She approached the wrong girl.

I'm going to get an education. I'm going to have a great job that I love and I'm going to be successful. If I do get married to someone, it will be to someone I like and meet on my own and not some guy whose mother asked me to marry at the gym. Even after getting married, I will continue to work and earn money on my own. Yes, he's going to help with the house chores. He's not getting away with anything just because he's a 'man'.



16 comments:

  1. definitely cringey! haha glad she left you alone, i would have been super rude in your place, nice that you kept your cool
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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  2. I mean, to each their own, but I think being of a similar age is fun because you can relate to the generation you grew up in. What a weird story!!! Thanks for sharing! XO
    Lauren-Blair
    www.prefertobedemure.com

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    1. That's exactly what I think! It would be more fun, for sure!

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  3. That is absolutely hilarious. I had a similar instance of a stranger proposing to me on a plane. They make for funny stories after.
    xo
    Siffat
    http://icingandglitter.com

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  4. It's so common in Arabic culture for women to ask for their sons, grandsons haha! it is a bit like they're prying into your life by forcing themselves upon you & you're only 15 jeez they should back off!


    Serene | I Am Serene L

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  5. It's so common in Arabic culture for women to ask for their sons, grandsons haha! it is a bit like they're prying into your life by forcing themselves upon you & you're only 15 jeez they should back off!


    Serene | I Am Serene L

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  6. omg what a story, such a weird lady. I'm so sorry that happened to you. The things people say and do these days. And since you mentioned the age difference, in my opinion yes, it seems bad when you're 18 and your husband is 26, BUT if you grow old together, and you're 50 and he's 58, or if you're 60 and he's 68 it doesn't sound so bad anymore. So I think age really doesn't matter in the end. But it's really personal preference though yea?

    And bravo to you for wanting to stick to school and getting an education. That's the smartest choice sweetie!

    -Lily from With Love Lily Rose

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  7. OMG! that is absolutely crazy how the mother can ask randomly to strangers! M sorry that it happened to you, the world is getting really weird!Regarding the age difference, when you love someone, age doesn't really matter in my opinion.

    Happy week ahead!

    Kisses Ashon
    http://ashonfashionary.com/boyfriend-shirt-day/

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  8. Well, damn. This is a big reason I'm so terrified of the middle east. I just can't make myself agree with the customs and cultures. Ugh, sounds like this woman has some issues, in my book, although surely to her own people she's probably completely normal. When I was 14 my friend's 28 year old brother asked me to marry him over a text message. They were from Lebanon. Obviously I said no, haha.
    My ex was 8 years older than me. It wasn't weird at the time, but now we're completely different people. I don't think it's about age as much as it is about maturity and a person's ability to accept change in their other half. We just couldn't keep up with each other and it caused us to fall apart.
    www.MARINASAYS.com

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  9. I thought she was just being friendly and all. But when I read through, what! Out of nowhere, she'll ask you to marry her son?! WHAAAAAAAAAAAT! But anyway, you made the right decision to just leave the gym. If I were you, I'll look at her closely and ask if she's alright then run like a kangaroo. Hahaha!

    Love reading this, btw.

    Love, Fads
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  10. Gosh that was a bit out of the blue! I don't know how I would've reacted to be honest - I probably would've been too shocked to say anything! At least you were able to escape and they backed off in the end.

    Lizzie Bee // mysticthorn.com

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  11. Great story! Love it!
    Xoxo,
    Love from www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

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  12. This world is getting stranger every day x
    Yuliya at Yukova Blog

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  13. This is unacceptable and I still don't understand the point of all those traditions that make little girls get married at young age like 12 or something and then produce babies. That's all types of wrong in my opinion. They are just kids!! Also, I don't have a specific opinion about age difference. Love is love and you can't do anything about it.

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

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